So, more and more I am learning that one if the BIGGEST problems on social media and just in life generally, is ASSUMPTIONS. Like the picture states above, assumptions make and ass out of YOU and ME. SMH
Lately, I have A LOT of people passing assumptions around about me. Someone even started my thread again on Guru Gossiper and OF COURSE, the lies and assumptions are SO real on there! I have been getting comments (hate comments) and emails and messages all with nothing but assumptions about what I am or am not doing. I have noticed that with these assumptions about 99% of them are always wrong. BUT, the problem is, is that about 80% of people believe these assumptions and that is where this becomes a problem.
I know SOOOO many people say not to shed light on haters or play into what they say but, when it effects your channel, your life, and your reputation...its damn near impossible. Especially when you know your are 100% an honest and blunt person and KNOW that if anyone came to you and bluntly asked you questions, you would answer them completely honest.
I have been attacked on social media from so many angles lately. First, I was attacked for being a blunt person and making rant videos. Then I was attacked for who i was associating with or friends with on-line. Then, I was attacked for being an adult and human being and sticking up for something that was completely wrong in the Beauty Community and speaking out against a popular brand and YouTuber. Now, I am being attacked for a GoFundMe account I did not even make for myself AND by a certain type of vegan folk online. I have been called every name imaginable, threatened, and slammed 24-7 since this started. Now, I have a super thick skin and have dealt with this type of hate my WHOLE life, from even my own family so, you bet your ass total strangers do not effect me BUT, when they are start bringing legal things into it or threatening me or my children or making assumptions about me, I lose it. Oh, but I deserve this for putting myself out there don't I!? NO. That is complete BULLSHIT.
What I really want to get across to anyone reading this is...DO NOT believe gossip or rumors or assumptions. People love drama and gossip and on-line, everyone is back in high school. "Friends" will drop you quicker than you can blink and haters will spend their LIFE trying to find out anything they can twist into making you a horrible person. They down right become stalkers just to get that little bit of drama and when your a good and honest person like I am, they twist the truth to MAKE drama that isn't there. They take things out of context or rip things out of your past and make it seem like you just did or said it. They PHOTOSHOP your words or messages into their own and they just down right make up lies. All for their own enjoyment of gossiping and trying to bring you down. The sad thing is, in so many cases, what they do WORKS because people actually believe this garbage! People are so naive online and get way too wrapped up in the nonsense. Adults become children and common sense is thrown out the window.
You can NOT forget that we are REAL people with REAL feelings. People cram it into your brain so much that you should just take the hate and nonsense and ignore it because it happens all the time online and there not much you can do. It'll always be there so just don't shed light on it and give them what they want. PSHHH I'm sorry but that's like saying to just ignore serial killers because the attention is exactly what they want and no matter what we do, there will always be serial killers.... Even on-line, there are consequences. REAL consequences. LEGAL consequences. People just do not know they can do something about it so, they tell people to just deal with it. I am technically running a business with me being the product. People spreading rumors or lies about me that effect MY business is slander and defamation of character and it IS something I can do something about. I really encourage you all to check you states laws on it because there is a lot more you can do online than you think!
People say that the haters and trolls and gossipers show their true self by doing the things they do. That it says nothing about you but a ton about them. That is true to a certain extent but what happens when this person hides behind a fake name and picture? It's so sad to me that someone with not even a real name can tear down someones reputation who puts their whole self out there honestly. Why do we believe this shit? Why do we waste our time? Why do we spread the rumors and drama instead of going to the source? What EXACTLY has this world become?
So basically, I am a fat, trailer trash, lazy, crazy person who scams her subscribers, fixes her giveaways, and lies CONSTANTLY. That is the ONLINE version of who I am. THAT is what assumptions has gotten me and you. You can choose to believe it or you can choose to use your OWN brain. Like Jaclyn Hill said, "I would NEVER choose to associate and surround myself with these types of people." ME NEITHER girl....me neither!
We do what we do because we love it and have a deep passion for the people who support us and the things we talk about daily. It does NOT mean we deserve that hate we get and that we have to be bullied and abused and just be quiet about it. I will NEVER be quiet about it. I will ALWAYS speak up and speak out against this bullshit and tell you all straight, the FACTS of who I am and what I am doing. My motto has always been, "If your 100% honest, you never have to worry about feeding your own lies and tripping on them." and I live by that every single day.
I choose to be a good person even when no one is looking. THAT'S who I am.
I am a 31 year old, stay at home mother with a Beauty Channel on YouTube. I will never be "proper" or professional on Youtube so sometimes, I need to vent!